What Is lagom?
Therapy for individuals & couples who are tired of living in extremes.
/LAH-gom/ is a Swedish concept that means “just the right amount.” It represents a sense of balance, moderation, and intentional living: not too much, not too little. A place where life feels sustainable and aligned.
Find your lagom—that sustainable space where you feel balanced, secure, and fully yourself.
THERAPY FOR INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES SEEKING BALANCE AND CONNECTION
Find balance, growth & connection.
Services
Individual Therapy
Reclaim Your Peace and Presence
From the outside, it probably looks like you have it all together. You’re the responsible one, the caregiver, or the high-achiever everyone relies on. But on the inside, it feels like you are constantly running on empty.
Maybe you’re drowning in a sea of “what-ifs” that you can’t seem to quiet. Maybe you feel deeply disconnected from your own body, or you’re realizing that your default response to stress is to fix, please, and over-function until you crash. You know the way you’re living isn’t sustainable, but you aren’t sure how to step off the wheel.
I help you untangle the heavy stuff.
In individual therapy, I don’t just look at your immediate symptoms; I look at the root causes. Together, we will gently examine the survival strategies and protective behaviors that used to keep you safe, but are now keeping you stuck. Our approach is deeply gentle, collaborative, and pacing-focused. You don’t have to rush your story here. I provide a safe, warm space where your nervous system can finally settle, helping you move away from survival mode and toward a life that feels balanced, secure, and truly yours.
Couples Counseling
Move from “Stuck” to Connected
You care for each other, but lately, it feels like you’re having the exact same argument on repeat. Maybe you’ve started keeping secrets to avoid a fight, or perhaps the silence in your home feels heavy.
I help you get beneath the surface of those repetitive fights. Using proven, evidence-based methods (Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy), I’ll pinpoint the cycle keeping you stuck and build practical, real-world tools to help you repair trust and feel like a team again.
Hi, I’m Erin Thorson Rodriguez (she/her), LCPC, and the Founder and Principal Practitioner of Lagom Counseling Services.
I offer telehealth therapy services in Illinois and in-person sessions in Oak Park, IL. If you are outside of Illinois but looking for support, please check out the Relationship Coaching tab for information on coaching services available across state lines.
Our Areas of Deepest Focus
- Overcoming the “Too Much” (Anxiety & Trauma Support): For high-achievers, caregivers, and cycles of chronic stress who feel like their nervous system is constantly on high alert.
- Rebuilding Connection (Couples & Relationship Counseling): For partners stuck in repeating, frustrating communication loops who want to feel like a team again.
- Navigating Major Shifts (Life Transitions & Identity): Gently untangling old patterns of coping (like people-pleasing or over-functioning) that no longer serve who you are becoming.
THERAPEUTIC APPROACH
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THERAPY
Healing happens in the context of safe, genuine connection. My work is rooted in a psychodynamic and relational approach, which means I pay attention not only to the challenges you’re facing today but also to the deeper patterns, experiences, and relationships that have shaped your inner world. Together, we explore how past wounds, protective strategies, and unspoken emotions influence the life you’re living now — always at a pace that feels respectful and grounded.
I work with individuals & couples who are navigating anxiety, stress, life transitions, relationship challenges, and the feeling of being “stuck.” In our sessions, you can expect a supportive, non-judgmental space where your story matters and your pace is honored. Together, we’ll explore what’s getting in the way, build on your strengths, and develop practical tools that help you move toward the life you want.
Whether exploring individual struggles or navigating a relationship together, my style is warm, collaborative, reflective, and deeply attuned. I don’t rush the process — instead, I meet you where you are, honoring your pace while helping you move toward meaningful, sustainable change. My goal is to help you develop insight, strengthen your inner resources, and feel more grounded and connected in your everyday life.
I also strive to be an ally. I recognize that we are shaped not only by our past but also by all the various identities we hold. I want to hold space for all parts of you to feel seen and valued.
If you’re ready to begin this work, I’m here to walk with you — with curiosity, compassion, and a commitment to your growth.
ABOUT ME
WHY I DO THIS WORK
I chose the name Lagom because I spent years watching smart, caring people—and couples—burn themselves out trying to be “perfect.” In our culture, we’re taught that more is always better. But true healing isn’t about doing more; it’s about finding just the right amount for you.
I have a Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Northwestern University and am a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC).
My clinical training taught me the deep theory, but my clinical experience taught me that real change only happens when you feel safe, heard, and un-rushed. Whether I’m helping a couple untangle a communication knot or helping you quiet a racing mind, my goal is to help you find a life that feels sustainable.
FAQs
How often should we meet
I recommend starting with weekly sessions. As our work progresses, we can reduce the frequency based on your comfort level
Do you take insurance?
Yes, I am in network with BCBS PPO, Aetna, and United Healthcare. I also offer Superbills for out-of-network providers
What are the costs without insurance?
Individual sessions are $200. Couples sessions are $225. You can pay with a credit, debit, or HSA card
